*Dalton, 35- Husband Material
Pros:
Smart
Tall
Really nice
Fun
Same taste in music
Kind eyes
Dad energy
Has a Costco card
Gentleman
Cons:
A bit vanilla
Didn’t love the restaurant choice
Ordered his steak medium
Off the bat, Dalton had an impressive profile.
First of all, he’s really handsome. Not like disney channel hearthrob hottie. But in like, a nice smile, blue eyes, dark brown hair with a few grays…… basically how you want the father of your kids to look like kind of way. Like you could easily imagine him pushing a stroller… And at 6’3 (190 cm), he just had that big daddy bear vibe.
Anyway, scroll scroll scroll…
He also went to Harvard, works in corporate strategy for Porsche, and just seemed like a funny and sweet guy. I mean, what’s not to like?
So he wrote to me and responded to one of my prompts which was about how I wear my Patagonia vest literally all the time, including to sleep lol (I hate being cold).
D: Hahaha I think we’re on the same page, I wear my puffer on all occasions year round
Fabulous, someone who get it.
Me: Haha I retired mine for the summer but it’ll make a comeback this fall
We pretty effortlessly slipped into a conversation. I tried guessing which was the lie in his “two truths and a lie” prompt. FYI- I think this is a really good prompt to have on your profile, and a great conversation starter. And like, flirting tip- (trust me, I won like every award in high school for being the biggest flirt)… instead of just guessing which one is the lie, be like “I have to know which one was the lie (laughing emoji). This shows interest and opens it up to them to do story time, and then you can do follow up questions on that story, or what you thought the lie was. The convo can go in a lot of different directions from there so.. yeah… great prompt. Okay back to Dalton-
He also loved my prompt about Home Goods. I think it was “My happy place is: Home Goods” or something like that. (Home Goods, for my non-American readers, is like a home décor store but everything is overstock items that are discounted, and you can get like pillows, carpets, candles, and a bunch of other random sh*t).
D: Also I had to laugh at your Home Goods answer… I think I’ve been a solid 7-8 times this month alone
Me: Omgg… are you doing a home decor project?
Me: First date?? (joking emoji)
D: Haha not decor exactly…. I just redid my kitchen and decided to treat myself to all new stuff! Like spoons, plates and such
D: People kept giving me home goods gift cards for my birthday etc… so I just decided to go wild
Me: Damn, we should have met earlier, I would have had a field day
D: Haha yes, I could’ve def used the advice, I was usually just wandering the store like a lost puppy
We exchanged numbers so he could text me pics of his kitchen renovation that he did himself (hot), and I sent him some pictures of some interior design projects I did for family friends. (Is this an HGTV match made in heaven ??)
We texted for a day or two and then he asked me if I wanted to get drinks! We were simultaneously talking about his job and what he does.
I was completely joking, but I was like:
“Okay the real question is-does the company give you a Porsche :P”
And he was like, “Actually yes haha”
Me: Okay fioneeee, I’ll go out with you (eyeroll emoji)
That’s my weird sense of humor that like, you either get or you don’t.
But he thought it was hilarious, so we set a date for our date.
He got to the restaurant a bit before me and was sitting at the bar. He got up to say hi to me and the first thing I noticed were his kind eyes. (Blue eyes sometimes… idk I don’t wanna offend anyone but blue eyes on guys can just look so… intense… Btw, my ex boyfriend of 8 years had blue eyes and blond hair lol). But despite being blue, they were like very cute. Less serial killer and more lets eat cereal together. And he had suchhh a warm and nice smile.
By the time we both sat back down we were laughing and giggling. Idk about what even, but the mood was light. We ordered some drinks and appetizers to share. He was so curious about me going to school in Switzerland and what that was like etc. Sometimes I get kind of sick of telling the story of how I ended up there, but I also love talking about my college experience, (which may sound kind of lame), but it was the best decision of my life. And admittedly, everyone that went there kinda shared this very unusual, unique experience together and are bonded for life. Wow that really does sound cultish. I mean it’s a tiny school that no one has ever heard of, of course people will be curious. And he went to Harvard and then Columbia so… kind of on the opposite end of the spectrum of well known schools. So I’m awkwardly like
Me: “How was Harvard :) ?”
LOL
He shared some fun stories and was very humble about the whole thing. Which was even hotter. You guys must have noticed by now that I just love loveee smart guys. MmMMmmmMM it’s such a turn on. I mean, someone’s gonna have to help my future kids with their homework at the kitchen table, ‘cause if I do it, there'll be two of us crying… so…
The rest of the date was good.. the usual inching closer, make out (I’m such a PG-13 dater LOL), laugh, make out more. Honestly all my good first dates were about the same, and also, I kind of had a memory lapse after the summer. Like half of this date is a blur. But anyways, I always say, whatever you remember is worth remembering, and whatever you don’t, just wasn’t.
At the end of the date he walked me to my car, and turns out his car was parked pretty close to mine.
Me: So am I gonna see this Porsche?
B: Yeah definitely!
It was really nice…… It was giving zaddy job, zaddy car and zaddy money
what?
Who said that?
Kiddinggggggg
Of course we got in and made out… but it was very ……………..
Vanilla.
Idk, I was expecting a little more heat, a little more ~passion.
But it was fine… and to be fair I think he was kind of uncomfortable because he is really tall and that car is kind of tiny in the back. So mid make out he’s like “Ow my leg” …which is so Spongebob lol.
Anyway, the date definitely went well enough for a second date. I told him I didn’t mind coming into DC now that I knew he was normal.
So……………….. here’s my small issue.
He picked the place.. and.. uhhhh…..eh…
mm..
It’s just that…
There are so many cool places in DC. Doesn’t even have to be fancy, but just like.. cool. Something unique. Something with some ambiance.
And he picked… Farmers & Distillers.
…
Eh.
Farmers & Distillers is a sister restaurant of Founding Farmers, which is like fine for like brunch with friends… or like, Mother’s day. I’m not knocking it- like, it’s good. Decent food, decent place. But in a city like DC, where there’s reallllllly good even moderately priced food in like cool, intimate environments, aka Retrobottega (went with my work bestie), or even like higher-end, trendy places, aka ilili (went with my boujee friend for her bday)…. like ………there’s just sooooo many places to choose from. The chain farm to table restaurant was just so…. not it.
It was so…
vanilla.
Like just a little… uncreative…
I feel like if you need date inspo, just google it…. Like with “Washington Post best restaurants 2023” I got this fun list. See? There is help out there.
I dunno, is it the biggest deal in the world? Of course not. But tbh- I’m pretty f*cking cool (humble who), and I want someone who loves food, appreciates a good ambiance, and also puts in as much effort to create a memorable experience as I do.
Okay whatever, that was a tangent but….. mild judgement on the choice, but I was still excited to see him and appreciated that he made the res and planned it.
I got there and he was really warm and happy to see me. He really is kind of a gentle giant. We sat on the same side of the booth and were laughing as usual. There were only three things that really stood out to me on this date.
Ordering food. His Costco card. And being driven home.
One was negative, and two were really positive.
So we both decide to get steaks and I order first. Of course I get mine rare, max medium rare.
And then he ordered his….. medium.
Medium?? Not even medium rare.
I know it shouldn’t matter to me, but I was like what the f*ck?
Idk.. something about a guy that can’t handle a little blood. Like babe we’re gonna have bigger issues down the line.
Anyway, we both had trips coming up but wanted to schedule in a third date. He was going to Armenia and then somewhere else for a wedding, and I had a few trips planned with friends and family. So we had like a 4 day window to meet up before one of us left again. We pulled out our phones and discussed dates. (Old enough to know by now that this means nothing, so don’t get too excited lol). Anyway, we wrapped up dinner and got the check. When he was taking out his credit card he accidently pulled out his Costco card. LOL-
Me: You have a Costco card??
He sarcastically was like “I know… so cool”..
This guy is wholesome as f*ck.
After dinner I was gonna Uber back, but he offered to drive me home.
Drive me home!?? He lived 5 minutes from the restaurant and was willing to drive 40 minutes each way to drop me off. That was REALLY nice. We love love love. I was like “No, that’s so out of your way, I can’t ask you to do that! It makes no sense.”
And he just assured me he was happy to, and since I already took an Uber there, it’s the least he could do. Such a gentleman.
I will say the best part of the entire date was the drive home.
We both have the same weird taste in music and love the pop divas and were belting out Celine Dion and Whitney Houston and I don’t even remember what else (lol). We were literally just singing along and laughing and it was so much fun. We even missed an exit which added more time to the trip but, we were just vibing.
He was really fun, really cute, and just a good guy.
We got to my house and kissed goodbye. Sweet, wholesome date.
D: See you when I get back from my trip?
Me: Absolutely! Can’t wait.. Thanks again for the ride
D: Don’t worry about it, it was really fun
I blew him a kiss as I walked away.
We never saw each other or spoke again.
LOL
Truly… trulyyyyyyyy no hard feelings on my end. He didn’t reach out to me and I didn’t reach out to him. We were both traveling… You can lose momentum easily, especially when you’re still getting to know someone. And it was a good date… but… I wasn’t like superrrr into him. And clearly he wasn’t super into me either.
This guy is for sure husband material. He’s great. But he will be perfect for someone who…. appreciates vanilla.
I’m more of a Ben& Jerry’s Half Baked kind of girl.
I need a little more… flavor.
Dating 101 Key Take Aways:
Someone can be GREAT, just not right for you. You can be GREAT, just not right for someone else.
Also, in situations where you have to wait more than a week or two to see each other… prepare for the fizzle out. Expect less and be pleasantly surprised instead of expecting a lot and being disappointed.
