*Jamie, 27- Lisbon Lover: Part 8
Pros:
SO funny and goofy
Super attractive (Blond surfer vibe)
Insane chemistry
Really nice
Knows good restaurants
Organic connection
Amazing dancer
Gentleman
Assertive
BDE
Patient
Great travel buddy
Makes boring activities fun
DTF anywhere, everywhere, all the time
Cons:
N/A
(This blog is rated R so if you’re not down for that just x out now babes.)
Hi lovers-
Sorry for the delay, I was travelling over the weekend and having so much fun that I didn’t have time to write this blog! I was in Cinque Terre with two of my gorgeous girlfriends living that bella vita. I love doing trips with friends…. I feel like it’s this intimate experience, and you always come out of it with new, fun memories. You always get to know more about whoever you’re with. You see them tired, hungry, and overheated. You also see them in moments of pure bliss, when they have an amazing bite of food, see a breathtaking view, or when that 3rd Aperol Spritz hits. Anyway, the point is, you’re always with them, and you can definitely leave a trip liking someone more, or less.
And with Jamie… I liked him more. A hell of a lot more… (that pros list is getting longer did you notice :P)
I know you guys have been waiting a while for this blog so…. at last, here is the story of my baecation with Jamie.
SO- Jamie and I did 5 really amazing days together in the most beloved state in all of America… Florida.
It was an intimate 5 days. It definitely wasn’t like super romantic. It felt more like a trip with one of your best friends. Like effortless and funny. But still intimate. 5 days of pretty much doing everything together. We slept together, woke up together, ate every meal together, explored together, shopped together, took every shower together… (well, almost).
You get the point… it was…
intimate.
I feel like with a group there are at least some buffers, but when it’s just you and one other person, there’s really nowhere to hide. Anyway… I don’t even know how to tell this story… But there were some iconic songs that if I hear now, still kind of remind me of that trip. So, I guess I’ll use those as my anchor.
So we actually met up in Miami. He was visiting friends and I flew in a few days after to meet up with him. The plan was that we would meet up there and then he would drive us down to the Keys! I hadn’t seen him in two months and I didn’t really know what to expect when I saw him. It’s like a 4 hour drive and that’s a long a*s time to sit in awkwardness lol. But of course it was totally fine. Better than fine. Actually… the only awkward moments with us are our hellos and goodbyes; and it’s not even that awkward, I just don’t have the right word for it. Gauche, maybe? It’s kind of like a half kiss, hug… neither of us knows what the f*ck to do. But it only lasts like 3 seconds and then past that… it’s ~smooth sailing. He took my suitcase from me and opened the trunk of the car.
Me: Wowwww a Beamerrrr... :P okayy, riding in style
He actually wanted to get a Mustang, like a real American car, but they didn’t have one so he got this one instead.
TBH, I feel like a white convertible beamer is really the way to go for a Key West vacation anyway. And honestly- the convertible vibes were so much fun. Top down, blasting music, sun shining, reunited with my Lisbon lover… I mean… life was good. I’m a passenger princess so my only job was to choose the music and like very occasionally give directions but.. it was like 3.5 hours of driving straight so… I didn’t have to do much. We were just talking, deciding what song to play next, and sharing his vape. I always like the silent hand off. Where you just reach over and the other person hands it to you, and your fingers just ever so slightly graze. And you can feel that little electricity. I love that sh*t. And the more comfortable you get the longer your fingers linger… and then it turns into caress… and so on, and and so on... Idk, do you guys know what I’m talking about?? (it’s a flirting strategy, I’ll explain it another time).
Sometimes we’d take a break from the vape and he would just park it on the seat between his legs and have one hand on the steering wheel and the other on my thigh (♡ fav ♡). And it all just felt, super natural. The breeze was flowing through his blond wispy hair…. and I’m just thinking, why are guys so f*cking hot when they’re driving!?
Anyway, I was running my fingers up and down the back of his head and his neck, but it was chill, casual. I don’t know how to explain the comfort level of touching… but like, I don’t really touch my other dates like that (unless we’re actively making out). I can’t speak for him of course, but personally, it’s a comfort level I don’t have with most people. Anyway, that song comes on that’s like “I was on fire for youu. Where did you gooooo?”, and I could feel my feral energy coming out… Idk, obviously there’s an attraction and chemistry, but I think the reason I feel so comfortable wilding out, is because there’s no expectation from him. Like I know of course he’s always down, but his baseline is just funny and nice and respectful. I think I’ve said before that if I feel like someone wants something from me I close up like a clam. But when I feel really safe, I’m a hoe my guard goes down. Okay, so- he still has one hand on the wheel and the other on my thigh, and I have one hand on the back of his neck, and one free hand…………………………………………………………………………………….
(pause for dramatic effect)
GUYS, get your head out of the gutter!!!!
I just reached for the vape….
The vape that was…. between his…
Mhm…
Okay nevermind, head back in the gutter…
Mmmm, well you can use your imagination as to what happened next, but it rhymes with code red.
(oooo, the tea is hot today!)
Anyway, oh my God, I need to pick up the pace of this story… we haven’t even gotten to Key West yet. But I know you guys love the deets so-
Whatever, the rest of the drive was super fun. He took over DJ duties (he’s obsessed with Reggae/dancehall) and he plays, “Who Am I” by Beenie Man, which very quickly became the anthem of our trip. Do you know how fun it is to be singing “Sim Simma, WHO GOT THE KEYS TO MY BEAMERR” while you’re in a Beamer??
Really f*cking fun.
Anyway, we get to the hotel and when we open the car door, there’s a chicken staring at us. We’re like…. wtf is this random chicken doing here?? Idk, I thought it was so funny, but turns out, the whole island just has a bunch of chickens running around. Anyway, we checked in and got to the room, and it was……………….. beauuutiful. Jamie had booked everything, so I didn’t know what the room would look like. It was spacious, coastal themed, had plenty of natural light, a huge bed, big beautiful bathroom and shower, it was, just perfect. (and my standards are high). When you can trust someone’s competency and judgement… Points!!!
We put down our bags and within a few seconds we were making out J and Nay style. Aka tons of chemistry and just a lot of fun. Welllllllllllllllll… it wasn’t long before we were testing out our temporary bed for comfort. But I really needed a shower…
and Jamie was darling enough to come keep me company (ayee…)
Well that was the first of many showers together. But can we talk about hooking up in the shower??
In the past I always felt like the idea of it was always better than the reality. Like it’s not that comfortable (at least not for the girl) and like, raise your hand if you’ve ever been personally victimized by a shower curtain?? It’s like- why are you so obsessed with me? Turns out you just needed a bigger shower. And glass doors, no shower curtain. What made it even better is that I’m sure a bunch of their guests are old retirees that need a rod attached to the wall for balance, and a bench so that they don’t slip and break a hip, so… just imagine all the fun dancing you can do in there with those features.
Anyway, the first night we just went to the beach near the hotel to see the sunset and then walked around to see the town. Key West is…. wild. The streets were lined with bars and restaurants and we did a lap or two before we decided where to get dinner. We chose this cute restaurant with outdoor seating, live music and a really chill vibe. The food was super too. It was called Viva Argentinian Steakhouse in case you need a restaurant rec lol. We had already gotten a pre dinner snack on our walk so we weren’t thaaat hungry, so we decided to share something. Like I said before, when you travel with someone you find out so much stuff about them. Like what they like and don’t like to eat. But thankfully he was an easy person to share meals with. Oh, and lemme tell you… Key West portions… huge. I think we got some sort of meat platter with veggies and …. neither of us could finish our HALF lol. Over dinner we discussed our plans for the next day. We both realllyyy wanted to see some marine life. Like we were dyingg to see dolphins and some colorful fish. Or even like a turtle. So we booked this dolphin watching and snorkeling tour for the next day and we were so pumped. On our walk back to the hotel we were just people watching and enjoying the chaotic energy of the streets. One of the bars was playing “Chicken Fried” by Zac Brown Band, which is so catchy and also so American, so for the rest of the walk we kept singing “You know I like my chicken fried, cold beer on a Friday night, nanana na na nana” bc we didn’t know the words lol. As soon as we got back to the room I looked it up and I’m proud to say that I have since learned all the words.
The next morning we woke up cuddled up as usual. You know how I said the trip didn’t really have romantic vibes? Well, it really didn’t (which is fair, we weren’t together). I would say the only part that felt romantic (to me) was falling asleep and waking up together. We were always wrapped up in each other.. or touching.. which I think as girls we romanticize a bit. It obviously feels really, really nice when you like the person next to you. I have no idea what that experience is like for guys, or what’s going through their heads. Maybe that their arm is falling asleep or that they’re suffocating under the girls hair? Like I get that- but do they also enjoy it as much as we do?? Oh my God, speaking of arms falling asleep……….. ya’ll…. okay this is kind of embarrassing but basically, in the morning, we were cuddling bla bla, and he turned in the other direction, but then he stuck one of his arms out behind him. I was like… idk maybe he’s just stretching or something. So I didn’t do anything. And then he starts like shaking his hand. And I’m like… maybe his arm fell asleep and he needs to shake it awake? So I still didn’t do anything. And then he shook it a second time, so I… held his hand??…. And I still to this day, am not sure if his arm just fell asleep or he wanted to hold my hand lollll…. I mean, he did hold my hand back and stopped shaking it, so, maybe. Or he just didn’t want me to be embarrassed, I don’t know. Whatever. We did our morning exercise and got ready for the day. If you’ve read any of the past blogs you know how this goes, I don’t need to spell it out.
Sooo the dolphin watching was… kinda off to a rocky start lol. It really is all about luck and sometimes people see a ton of dolphins really close up.. we were not so lucky. We ended up seeing a few from a distance which was still pretty exciting. We were so mesmerized. There were also just some characters on the boat that made the trip so funny. They were just saying some crazy sh*t, but it was hilarious. I feel like it was kind of a be there moment, so it wouldn’t be that funny if I wrote it here. And also, I kinda like that there are a few memories that are just between me and Jamie. But anyway, we were dyinggg and trying to hide our laughter. Then we get to the snorkeling part of the tour… we were fully expecting like colorful coral and tropical fish… like Key West is literally known for amazing snorkeling. But.. they took us to like a little nursery area where the baby fish are born and live until they get bigger and can migrate to the corals. Whatever- it was fine, we basically went swimming, the water was warm, we saw like 2 ugly ass brown fish and wrapped up that tour. The good thing is, as underwhelming as that excursion was.. Jamie and I were laughing so hard when we got off the boat. We just like kept quoting the random things the other passengers were saying. So even if it wasn’t the amazing marine life sighting experience we were hoping for, we still had fun.
We really wanted to do some beach chilling so we drove over to a nearby beach. Jamie always had his soccer ball in the trunk, so off course he brought it to the beach. It’s something I really liked about him. He just enjoys life, the simple things. Like he was so happy playing with his soccer ball and doing his tricks. I love seeing anyone do things that are just playful. And he looked really hot at the same time. Anyway, we went for a swim together. The water was super calm and really really shallow. We were just chilling, talking, sharing stories, laughing.. (always laughing), and kissing. Mm, I guess I would consider this one of the only other “romantic” moments from the trip. My favorite thing ever when I’m in water is to just close my eyes and float. And I love when someone holds my legs and I can very gently float side to side and can feel all 12 pounds of my hair slowly getting dragged left and right. It’s so relaxing lol. Anyway, I’m floating peacefully when all of a sudden, I feel… mmmmmmm… something. Oh, hello. I kind of sat up from my floating position and had my arms and legs wrapped around him. We were just smiling at each other… that mischievous smile. Jamie kissed me and… uuuuffff… making out in the ocean… with the guy you already like…. yeah, game over. Like there was just something about when we were together… (and again, I can only speak for myself and this is clearly from my perspective)… but it just felt like we were like so magnetized to each other. Like couldn’t get enough. Anyway, we deliberated about our feral idea and went back and forth a bit.
“Should we?”
“Do you think people can see us?” (LOL okay we were pretty far in the ocean even if it was shallow, but there were still a few people on the shore that could probably see two bobbing heads)
“They probably won’t even notice”
“Is it even possible??”
Of course we’re like kissing between our deliberation and it’s just getting hotter and harder to resist.
Note: It’s possible!
Who knew?
Anyway, we got out and shared a beach towel while we dried off under the sun. We had definitely worked up an appetite and needed some lunch. We drove to this lowkey beach restaurant and this stray chicken walks over to our table. Jamie did not miss the opportunity to look at the chicken and sing “You know I like my chicken fried” LOL. After lunch we were soooo ready to go back to our room and have a little afternoon delight, I mean… nap. (Damn I feel like my non- American readers might not get that reference, but maybe the lyrics from the smash hit “Afternoon Delight” might help).
Anyway, post afternoon delight, nap, and shower, we were in suchhhh a lazy mood. You know that post sun and swim exhaustion? It’s soooo real. I was just laying on the bed in a towel, on my phone. He was on his phone. Ahhh… peace. (As long as our legs were touching, we really did not need to talk lol). I mean, we were together the whole day… I love when people can appreciate some silence. But then… I had to ask…
“what are we doing for dinner?”
Damn, we were like glued to that bed, but the planner in me had to know.
We start doing our independent research on our phones and he goes, “What’s Benihana?”
Me: It’s like a Hibachi grill place where they cook the food in front of you.
J: Is that where they set the onions on fire??
Me: Yeah!! It’s actually kind of fun. And they throw some food in your mouth and see if you can catch it. You would love it.
J: I only heard about it in Wolf of Wall Street when the guy goes, “BENI-F*CKING-HANA”
We decided right then and there that we were going to Benihana for dinner.
I called and managed to get us a reservation, but it was for a late dinner.
It’s okay… we found a way to burn some time.
Dating 101 Key Take Aways:
If there’s respect, consent, comfort, and safety… go f*cking crazy.
TO BE CONTINUED….
